Being shy is not the best of the ideas in today’s world. In fact, it’s a deplorable trait to possess. The suffering, the anguish and the guilt that you feel when you are expected to entertain the guests at your home or speak your mind out in a room full of people, and you just cant come up with anything. There are a dozen things in your mind to say, but you are too afraid to say. People lose interest in you because you hardly have anything to say. You seem boring.
You don’t want to go the parties or gatherings because you know people will find out your dirty little secret. You will be under the scanner again. You’ ll feel hated and secluded again. They have got tired of waiting for you to approach them. So, now they just leave you alone and enjoy their party. You just gaze at them, the joy those out-reaching people bring to the occasion leaves you awestruck. You just don’t understand how they do it. Why is it so easy for them? Why am I not like them?
This guilt keep crushing you day by day, everyday. You feel you have let down your folks who thought you would grow up to be a show stealer. You have let down yourself because you always wanted the company of great friends around you who would love you and appreciate you. You always wanted to be admired, by SOMEONE at least. But people leave you alone sitting in a corner when they discover this stupid quality of yours. They just can’t get that why is it so difficult for you, why can’t you just reach out to them. You know inside that they think of you as a sorry figure. And yes, you do feel sorry for yourself sometimes. You think why can’t I just change? Should I consult a psychologist? Why can’t someone just move his wand a put a spell on me and bring me out of this constant misery of being judged and living up to the society’s standards.
You have experienced the same feeling for all your life on numerous times, if not everyday. Being shy has made you feel unwanted or some times even laughable. Sometimes you feel that your shyness is embarrassing those related to you. The feeling is awful.
I have felt the same.But let me tell something to all you shy people out there. Don’t ever live by the standards others have set for you. Being shy doesn’t mean that I will not get anywhere in my life. Believe me when I am sitting in a room full of people, I know in my mind that I am smarter than most of them. You don’t have to prove anything to anyone, but yourself. If we are aliens to them, let it be. Aliens won’t live by the rules of people belonging to some other world, will they? You know what, I will prove all these standards imposed on all of us wrong. I will be yet another successful shy-boy! ;-)